What's Holding You Back?
All motivation occurs as a result of trying to move away from pain and toward pleasure. Extreme pleasure is experienced as desire. Pain can be physical, mental or emotional discomfort. Mentally, it may show up as resistance to a particular activity. Emotionally, it may show up as anger, frustration, impatience, aggravation or disgust. Both desire and disgust are powerful factors for change.
Desire is defined as: A wish or longing; a request or petition; the object of longing
Disgust is defined as: to offend the moral sense of; cause extreme dislike or revulsion in; a strong distaste
We tend to change our current conditions only when:
- it is creating a high degree of physical pain that we believe we can alleviate,
- when we are disgusted enough with the current situation to find it completely unacceptable or
- when we desire something so intensely that we are willing to endure the effort it takes to achieve it.
What in your life has become unacceptable?
What do you want with a passion?
What is keeping you stuck?
The answer to that third question is almost always fear, erroneous beliefs or lack of knowledge or ability.
Fear shows up in many ways: Uncertainty, worry, dread, anxiety, avoidance.
Uncertainty is often attributed to lack of knowledge, and that certainly is part of it. But, uncertainty is often rooted in fear of failure, which is what prevents an individual from getting the knowledge or skills in the first place.
Lack of knowledge and lack of ability may be due to other things. For example no matter how much a tone deaf person desires to be a famous singer with a beautiful voice that the world admires, that won’t happen unless the world goes tone deaf. Someone who desires to be an airline pilot but was born legally blind, cannot become an airline pilot—at least not in today’s world.
As to knowledge; we are born with a brain that functions a certain way and, while we can stretch our boundaries and accomplish things that are beyond the brain’s natural preferences, we can only do it for a short period of time. For example, individuals with brains that prefer to take in lots of data have difficulty focusing on any one thing for very long. All the other points of data in their surroundings compete for their attention and they must force themselves to ignore all those interesting things and stay focused. They can only do that for so long, then the brain rebels.
IQ is another area of limitation. There are things that lie beyond the understanding of some, and the desire to have that be different leads only to frustration.
Lack of knowledge or ability is rarely the real reason people are stuck though. That’s because we rarely have a strong desire for something that lies beyond our abilities. Nature is a wise mother. She tends to align our desires with our capacities quite nicely.
The real problem is what happens to us once Mother Nature has done her work and we are born into the world. At that point the outer world begins the conditioning process that results in all the irrational fears we get to adulthood with.
Since 90% of what holds most people back is fear-based, the fastest way to get unstuck is to go directly to the source and eliminate the fears.
The process called Rapidly Accelerate Mind Patterning (RAMP) and its deeper, but slower sister process Accelerated Mind Patterning (AMP), developed by Dr. Sherry Buffington, do exactly that; RAMP removes block in just minutes and AMP removes barriers that have created all kinds of problems in a few short hours. What’s really amazing about both processes is that the changes that occur are instant and permanent. Hundreds of people have removed blocks completely and permanently through these processes. And, once the change takes place, it is effortless and delightful to maintain.